Helping a Friend with Depression

  

Be able to tell facts from fiction

Myth:  It's normal for teenagers to be moody; teens don't suffer from "real" depression.

 

Fact:  Depression can affect people at any age or of any race, ethnic or economic group.

 

 

Myth:  People who claim to be depressed are weak, and just need to pull themselves together.

 

Fact: Depression is not a weakness, but a serious health disorder.

 

Myth:  Talking about depression only makes it worse.

 

Fact:  Talking through feelings may help a friend recognize the need for professional help.

 

Myth:  Telling another person that a friend might be depressed is betraying a trust.  If someone wants help, he or she will get it.

 

 Fact:  Depression, which saps energy and self-esteem, interferes with a person's ability or wish to get help.  It is an act of true friendship to share your concerns with another trusted adult.

 

Know the possible symptoms

Sadness or "emptiness"

Hopelessness, pessimism, or guilt

Helplessness or worthlessness

 

Inability to make decision

Inability to concentrate and remember

Lost interest or pleasure during ordinary activities--like sports or talking on the phone

More problems with school, friends and family

Trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or getting up

Appetite problems; weight changes

Headaches, stomachaches, backaches, sore joints and muscles

 

Restlessness and irritability--feels like anxiety

Wants to be alone

Skips classes and drops hobbies and activities

Drinks too much and takes drugs

 

Talks about suicide

Talks about death

 

What not to do

Don't dismiss your friend's feelings by saying things like "Just snap out of it."

Don't force someone to socialize, which can result in more feelings of worthlessness.

Don't agree with negative views.  Negative thoughts are a symptom of depression.